Marlene Kennedy is a freelance columnist. Reach her at [email protected]. You must be logged in to post a comment. Friend's Email Address. Your Name. Macho displays never really produce the effect you want. Unless, of course, your whole intent is to intimidate. Fawning — The touchy-feely person is not happy with a one-handed shake; he or she must rest the left hand on a shoulder, pat the back or run it down the left arm.
A first meeting like that can leave someone feeling creepy. Using two hands gives the impression that you want something else. Limp - The older generations were taught to use a gentler handshake with women, and women were taught that a firm handshake was too masculine.
The intent might be to show intimacy or friendliness, but unless you are already on an intimate level, this will only come across as manipulative and tricky, and others will resent you for it. Handshakes Really Matter In some cases, a handshake can make or break your chance of landing a deal, building a connection and making a good first impression. The Business Handshake — If your work depends on personal interfacing, you must learn the art of a good handshake.
The business people must be ready to shake hands routinely throughout a work week, whether they have issues with personal space or not. Business handshake protocol requires you to extend a hand of greeting to your superiors as you greet them each day, to new clients or customers, to every person in a group as you are introduced in a business meeting situation and then again as you leave , and — prime time — upon closing a deal.
If you are conducting business, a socially accepted handshake is always best. Thankfully, the rules of handshake etiquette are clear, and are the same for men and women in America. Lean forward slightly if there is room, but not so much that your faces are uncomfortably close.
Unfortunately, the number of seconds will vary depending on the situation, and if you stand there counting them it defeats the whole purpose of seeming natural and at ease. Sorry for yelling, but this is super important. Seriously, it is that simple. If they give you a puzzled who are you talking to look, then you might not have the right girl. We unearthed something in the last section that we want to address. This could be on purpose, or it just might be the fact that people sometimes look different in person.
But, another good thing to do to really ensure things go smoothly is plan a detailed meeting spot. The key here is the details. Some people get nervous having to walk into a new place without knowing exactly who they are looking for. It just makes things much less nerve-wracking for the woman you are meeting.
The new guideline is to give the higher-ranking person a split second to extend a hand, and if he or she does not, you extend yours. The key is that the handshake needs to take place.
Keep the right hand free. Before you walk into a meeting, move anything you are carrying to your left hand. You don't want to be fumbling with items before you extend your hand.
When mingling, hold your drink in the left hand so your right hand is always free and dry to shake. By: Barbara Pachter. It feels awkward.
Why do women sometimes feel uncomfortable about shaking hands? The reasons vary: Some women were never taught to shake hands. It is not that these women were told not to do so, it is that they were not taught to do so.
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